#5 Myths that may stop you to FOCUS FLOW FLOURISH to have a Positive Life
SELF CARE is hard sometimes to give permission or allowing ourselves to relax and look after ourselves. We may have been taught from childhood that we are “selfish” if we do things for ourselves and not for others.
Coming from a big family of five children Chinese background we always had to give to younger sisters or respect the elders by giving and sharing. Which is fine but sometimes we have to have boundaries for self preservation. Otherwise we suffer “burnout” from stress and anxiety continually giving more to others than ourselves. We often don’t recognise this in ourselves. Breaking the pattern needs to be questioned and becoming self aware of our behaviour.
It took a long time for me to allow myself , give myself permission to know my boundaries. I thought I was enjoying giving to people, and I was but my health started to deteriorate. Feeling tired, not being able to say “no” to tasks that people asked, I was feeling obligated and worried people may not like me if I said”no”.
It wasn’t easy at first. I felt “uncomfortable” yet it was relief not to have to worry about anyone but showed more respect for myself. You see the energy or time I was giving to others was taking it s toll. I had depleted myself that I became useless to others however more tot he point nothing left for myself. It’s like when we are flying the attendant shows us that we need to put on a mask in an emergency before we can help anyone else. This really brought it home for me. Like filling the empty glass , refilling so we can quench own thirst than share with others.
So to help you understand and to take action I wanted to share the myths about Self Care & Love so you don’t fall into the trap. These tips will support you when you are needing to always take care and love yourself because you matter. Self Care is an important part of our lives. It is the basis of well being.
DEBUNKING THE MYTHS OF SELF CARE
1 #1 – You’re Selfish
Many people perceive self care as a synonym of “selfish”. Looking after yourself is a necessity for you to give to others . Having “me time” is when you can revitalise so you can inspire others. Sometimes “letting go” really you need support and have to learn to ask for help. This helps too with Self Love-understanding why you may behave the way you do.
” make happiness a priority and be gentle with ourself in the process” Bronnie Ware
2 Tip #2 -It’s an Indulgence-and expensiveWe are lead to believe and sometimes having time out is a luxury. That we have to earn it and so our limiting beliefs is that we don’t deserve it. It is just as important for us to be conscious of our breathing and anxiety that it is costly if we need medical help eventually due to not paying attention to our own needs.
” Self Care is not self-indulgence, it is self preservation.” Audre Lorde , Feminist and Civil Rights Leader
3 Tip #3 – Self Care is the same for everyone
Self Care comes in many forms. It is not the massage or hot bath that makes it soothing. It is making the choice for yourself what makes you feel good about yourself and relaxes you so your are nourished. I find going for a walk with my dog gives me time to pause and give myself space to be in nature. Reading a book, doing some drawing or painting are other activities that are pleasurable. Not because I earned it. It’s because it feeds my soul.
” Nourishing yourself in a way that helps you blossom in the direction you want to is attainable, and you are worth every effort.” Deborah Day
4 Tip #4 – Self Care is just for Women
There is a myth that only women need time out. The benefits of Self care for well being for all are: improves physical health, reduces stress and anxiety, boosts your self esteem, protects your mental health and can lead to better relationships.
As human beings we all have these needs regardless of your gender. Wellness is this manner looks at health in a wholistic way. We all need to focus on these to flourish and flow.
” Self Care is giving the best of you, instead of what’s left of you.” Katie Reed.
5 Tip #5 – Be courageous and live the life that your heart is guiding you towards” Hostinger
These #5 myths will guide you so that you can NOW confidently and with certainty be your own driver and take journey that is YOURS!
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